‘Relationships’ Category
Crisis is a prelude to ALL expansions of consciousness
Thought for the day:
“Crisis is a prelude to ALL expansions of consciousness”
- William Meader.
Edited: July 13th, 2010
The Quality of All Our Relationships
“…the quality of all our relationships is a direct function of our relationships to ourselves” James Hollis, The Eden Project
“The Eden Project” is a book I am rereading, again, because it is by far the best book I have ever read on relationships.
Although it is quite dense and somewhat academic, it is definately worth the effort to get through it. No other book has transformed the way I look at relationships as much as this beautiful and realistic essay by James Hollis.
Another brief quote from the book
“All relationships begin and end in separation”
Paul
Edited: April 21st, 2010
How to never have another argument
Imagine never again getting upset when someone disagrees with you, tells you you’re wrong, or contradicts you. Imagine enjoying and growing from this experience.
Is it possible?
Yes. All you have to do is follow the guidelines and practice the exercise below.
Before we get started though, let me clear something up. Not arguing doesn’t mean being weak or accepting whatever anyone else says. Not arguing doesn’t mean being pushed around, giving in or admitting you’re wrong. Not arguing is not a weakness, it is a strength. Arguing is the weakness that must be overcome, as you will learn below. (more…)
Edited: November 27th, 2008
So You Want To Be A Powerful Communicator?
When Martin Luther King stood on the steps and proclaimed “I have a dream!” he did more than give a speech. On that famous day, Martin Luther King shared his vision with the world. A vision of America free of racial segregation and hatred.
When John F. Kennedy announced that he saw a man on the moon, he gave his vision to the world. And the country sprang into action to make it happen.
When those great men communicated, their power did not come from their words. Their power came from their vision. The visions they projected to the world changed the course of history and the lives of millions of people. Their visions were a map of the future.
Have you ever been talking to someone and ‘got the picture’? Have you ever been explaining something and the person you’re talking to lights up and says, “I get it”? What is this thing that we’re passing back and forth in our communication? Is it really just words that we are sending back and forth to each other? Or is there more to our communication than just the sounds that come out of our mouths?
Yes! What we are really communicating to each other is our visions.
Powerful communicators always communicate in known visions – the words they use are just signposts pointing to the vision. Poor communicators are unaware that they are sending visions, or indeed, what those visions look like.
In business, in politics, in life, we speak about where we see ourselves in the future. What do you see in your future? Your dream house, your dream job, your dream life? But what is it exactly that you are ‘seeing’? You’re seeing the vision you have created of your future. This vision is made of the same stuff and behaves in the same way as the vision that you project when you speak.
The speed at which your vision of the future becomes a reality depends on how strongly you project that vision. Just as MLK and JFK redirected the future of our world, so too your visions change the direction of your life. When MLK and JFK projected their vision of the future, they did it so powerfully that people got it, and it happened. The visions you project of yourself today are creating your life of tomorrow. That is the power of effective communication.
How powerful is your communication? Do people get what you say, do they see the picture? Or do you fail to get your point across and blame them for not listening to you?
By now I hope you can see the importance of understanding exactly what a vision is and how to use them to direct your life in the direction you want.
(Taken from Chapter 5 of “Blueprint – Change Your Life From the Inside Out”. Get your copy here)
Edited: October 26th, 2007
Kid Motivation – The Star Chart
The document Star Chart is a simple chart you can use to motivate your child to behave positively.
Basically, you give them a red, green or gold star depending on their behavior – getting to bed by themselves on time, brushing their teeth, good grades, whatever you agree on with them is appropriate behavior. The rules are on the back of the chart.
All you have to do is print it out and stick it on the fridge with a sheet of sticky stars (available for a dollar or 2 at deparment stores or stationary stores).
What children get what stars for is up to you and them to work out. We give green stars for positive behavior such as brushing teeth themselves on time, doing their assigned chores without being asked, etc. We give a gold star for each 100% they bring home from tests at school. Red stars are given for not doing what they agreed to do. The Star Chart is here.
Edited: March 9th, 2007
